Pampers parenting experts identify some of the most common challenges your child might face and tell you how to handle them.
Most children have accidents after being toilet trained. When your child has an accident, clean it up calmly and have him help. This gives the message that toilet training is her area of responsibility. Make it clear to her that helping is not a punishment. Always take along an extra set of clothes when a child under five is outside the house, just in case.
Boys refusing to stand
Sometimes little boys will refuse to urinate standing up, having initially learned to sit for this task. Instead of making a fuss, let your son do as he wishes until he's ready to stand up. He'll eventually figure this out.
Little boys should have a strong, arched stream; if not, they need an evaluation. If dribbling comes on suddenly, it could be an indicator of an infection.
Going in hidden places
In this situation, reassurance and guidance are much better than scolding. If you find poo or a puddle behind the couch or curtain, try and avoid personal pronouns and direct language ("Did you put the poo behind the curtain?"). Your face will show your disappointment; your words should merely provide directions for a better way to handle the problem.
Frequent urination, pain with urination, dribbling in small amounts, inability to hold urine, changes in the appearance or smell of the urine, and unexplained fever can all be signs of a bladder infection. Consult your child's health care provider if your child has any of these symptoms.
If a child feels too stressed or pressured to toilet-train, she may begin to withhold urine and/or stool. Follow these guidelines to avoid constipation and other problems:
1. Hold off on toilet training for a while. Back off for now and come back to this issue in one to three months, asking your child if she's ready to try at that time. Withholding is a power play that a child will win. So don't engage in combat.
2. Treat constipation. Both a cause and a result of withholding stool, constipation should be treated with stool softeners, gentle laxatives, and lots of extra fiber and fruit.
If the problem isn't solved in a week, call your health care provider.