How to play with toddlers: learning through play and games
By watching your child play, you can find out how she thinks, what she's learning, and how the world – including you – is influencing her. The window intothese insights is play.
The Baby X Experiment
Back in the 1970s, psychologist Phyllis Katz conducted what we now call the Baby X experiment. She put three toys in a room: a small football, a femininedoll and a gender-neutral toy. She dressed a three-month-old in an unadorned yellow jumpsuit and brought a series of adults (the subjects of theexperiment) into the room to meet the baby. Some of the adults were told that the infant was a girl named Mary; others were told that the baby was a boynamed Johnny. Most of the adults who thought the baby was a girl gave her the doll to play with. Most of those who believed the baby was a boy gave him thefootball.
The Baby X study sparked a lot of heated discussion about gender stereotyping. Nevertheless, when Dr. Katz repeated the experiment 10 years later, she gotthe same results. What's more, despite great efforts toward gender equality in recent years, if you walk into a typical American preschool, it won't behard to guess which children will be brushing Barbie's hair and which will be crashing toy trucks.
Boy Toys VS. Girl Toys: Getting Past Stereotypes
Should you worry if your child desires or plays mostly with toys typically associated with his or her gender? Probably not, but encourage your youngster toplay with a variety of toys, including those usually linked to the opposite sex. It's not about the toys themselves, but the underlying skills they helpyoung children master. The fantasy play associated with dolls helps girls become sophisticated in skills used in interpersonal relationships, especiallynurturing and empathy, but they're seldom acknowledged as much as the mathematical and visual-spatial skills learned from playing with ""boy toys,"" likeblocks and cars.
Fantasy VS. Reality: Best of Both Worlds
Another way in which children's play differs is whether it's based on reality (such as board games and sports) or fantasy (such as playing house orpretending to travel through time and space). In general, firstborn and only children seem to do more fantasizing, perhaps because they spend more timealone. They're also more likely to have imaginary companions.
Having an active fantasy life also seems to help develop, or at least reflect, higher intellectual skills. When your child imagines that a golf ball is amagical talisman and decides what to do with it (save the princess? Fight the dragon? Conjure ice-cream sundaes?), he is using fantasy to consider theimplications of choosing different options. Fantasies are also an excellent way for a child to come to terms with things that challenge, frighten orconfuse him. For example, a three-year-old who is upset by the noise made by a big truck can master his fears by pretending that the wooden block he'sholding in his hand is an even bigger and scarier truck.
Reality play, on the other hand, can help a child hone important social skills. A board game gives a preschooler practice taking turns. Early sportsactivities teach the basics of teamwork and shared responsibility.
What can you do to help your child try new kinds of play? The simplest thing is to get involved. If you start playing with a cardboard house, your sonwon't be able to resist. The more you try to get involved and play with your child, the closer you will understand him and connect.
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